Is it true that Japanese women are popular overseas? 7 points all Japanese women should keep in mind.
Have you ever heard that Japanese girls are popular in other countries?
With an increase in the number of people going abroad for pleasure, school, working holiday, or work, Japanese women are getting more attention in other countries. As a Japanese woman myself, I cannot be happier!
“Japanese women are popular,” I would like to evaluate whether this claim is really true or just an urban legend.
I lived in an English-speaking country as a student, and now as an adult, I am working abroad. Therefore, I have many foreign friends. When I see Japanese female tourists, I often find myself worrying about their safety. I would like to tell you about the 7 points to keep in mind, from my own experiences!
１． No means No! Clearly indicate your intentions!
Perhaps it is due to the Japanese culture, but many Japanese women tend to be ambiguous in their response. When speaking in Japanese, people still understand your intentions even when delivered ambiguously. However, in other countries, if you do not clearly say “NO!” when you mean it, it could lead to serious problems. Additionally, by firmly making the YES/NO distinction, others will respect you for having opinions. In other countries, it is a major turn-off when a person lacks their own opinion and just do what others do!!
If you cannot firmly say “NO,” guys may persistently bother you or you could end up being in trouble. This is not really being popular. Be sure to clearly express your own opinion! !
２． Think if you would also act that way toward Japanese men!
Foreign men, especially those from Europe and the United States, are very expressive and know how to speak to women to make them happy. As we are culturally not used to such blunt expressions, those words undeniably make us happy. Sadly, there are many enemies of women who use those words against us!
Even if a woman does not give a Japanese man the time of day, she may easily be persuaded if a Western man approached her in the exact same way. Would I act the same way towards a Japanese man? Calmly ask yourself this question, think about it, then act accordingly!
３． Do not go out alone with a guy you don’t even like!
As far as I could tell, foreign women do not go out alone with a guy if she doesn’t like him. Going out to eat with just the two of you will definitely be perceived as a date. If something happens at that time, you cannot regret it. The guy who asked you out would presumably be happy if you agree to go with him. In order to avoid any misunderstandings, it is best not to go out alone with someone you do not like.
４． Do not easily trust someone!
Perhaps this happens to people traveling for pleasure, where you end up telling your hotel or itinerary to someone who you just met on the street. It certainly is not true for everyone, but Japanese people are generally kind and lack intentions to deceive others. This cannot be said for people in other countries. As depicted in the movie TAKEN, it is best not to easily trust people you just met.
５． Giving too much is not attractive!
Japanese women are thoughtful, kind, cute, agreeable, and generally perceived as subservient. When they like a guy, they often want to do everything for them. I can understand how you would want to do as much as you can for your boyfriend. But, could we try backing off a little? The comfort of knowing that you will do anything for him could diminish his love for you. I often see that men are making efforts to do nice things for their special women in Western couples around me. Women feel happiness from being loved. Let’s maintain a good balance!
６． Determine if he really likes you or just wants a status symbol!
It seems that Japanese women are a status symbol in other countries. As someone who has not returned to Japan in a while, Japanese women seem fashionable, pretty, and very attractive. It is true that there are many men who are just looking to gain that status symbol.
Try to figure out early if he really cares about you or he has ulterior motives, before you get in too deep!
７． You are you! Don’t worry about others!
Characteristically, Japanese people care about what others think. As a result, they often end up with similar fashion, make-up, and overall appearance. It is fine if you are happy with going with the trend at the time. In other countries however, you could be perceived as lacking individuality. Be sure to keep your sense of self, and do not let others sway you. It is not interesting to be just like everyone else! Protect your individuality!